I remember a day when boys/men would bring a girl flowers or call her on the phone. Walk her to the bus stop or walk her home. Pick her up for a date, then open her door for her. Walk her back to her door to make sure she got back home safely.
Now boy/men seem to think a text message ( Wuz Up? ) or a quick pic of a particular body part will get them some face time. Have people forgotten how to talk with each other? Walk into any public place and you will see people of all ages on there phone. Not watching the world around them or talking with the people they are with. My husband and I went to a restaurant the other day and after we ordered we looked around. There were at least 3 - 4 couples not talking to each other, but checking their cell phones. Do we as humans not know how to communicate with each other?
Remember the old days when you would hang out with someone just to spend time with them, get to know them as a person. Have a few meaningless conversations and a few laughs. Work on a project together or travel somewhere, just to spend time together?
I remember when my kids were in high school. They didn't really date, not like I remember dating. They would travel in packs. 15-20 kids all together. Mind you as a parent I thought this was great. My daughter or son would be safe in numbers, right? But a one on one date is how you get to know that person. Isn't that what dating is all about?
Then I think back to my days in high school. Boyfriends would pick me up in the morning and we would walk to school together. Then we would meet up after school and he would walk me home. When I transferred to a school where I had to take the bus a few years later. A new boyfriend would wait for me everyday and walk me to my bus stop on his way home. (don't judge me. you probably had more than one girlfriend/boyfriend in high school too).
Even now that i am married to the boy that used to walk me to the bus stop. (Yes I got that lucky) Romance in married life has gone by the wayside, for the most part, in this day and age as well. I'm not talking about sex. I am talking about romance. Get your mind out of the gutter. LOL
Once you have kids, the romantic dinners and nights out with friends ends. Especially for us, we had kids early and our friends were still partying it up. Now they are stuck with youngsters and ours are out on their own.
So now that we are the in the transition of empty nesters, for at least a year now. how do you get that romantic flame back? It's still there, you can feel it in the flutter of your heart when they enter a room or you hear their voice on the phone. Once in while you catch a quick glimpse of them and remember why you married them in the first place. Sometimes it can be as simple as a certain moment they make or a phrase they say. They may have said a thousand times. Think about it. How many times have you actually LOOKED at your partner? Not just see them, but LOOK at them. Remember them an exciting human being. why youo wanted to be with them in the first place. It wasn't to text on the phone or send naked pics.
Remember what you did all those many years ago or even months ago or even weeks ago for some of you. That you did to make them fall for you. Do you remember how you captured their heart? Just because you may have captured their heart doesn't mean you should take for granted that it will always be yours. You should do the little things that you once did to catch them, in order to keep them.
Romance needs a comeback!